A Woman’s Worth

There has been a lot of attention lately on the equal rights of women, what with the Women’s March on Washington and International Women’s Day.

And even though this is coming out as a political issue, I think it is more an issue of equality and worth. So regardless of your political persuasion, this topic may affect you. Are you a woman? Do you know a woman? Do you love a woman?

Yesterday was Day Without A Woman strike. What does that mean? How does a woman ‘strike’ without alienating her family or other cherished men in her life? This is not a division – Women vs. Men.

I could have taken the day off work, as I am my own boss. And truthfully I planned on it. But then interesting and exciting opportunities came my way, so I chose to work. And I am grateful I have that choice. You see, I am blessed to not be living in an oppressed marriage, an oppressed job, or even an oppressed state. And for that I am very grateful.

So how did yesterday affect me? Well, I had moments of enthusiastic female bonding, and I had moments of exhaustion and sadness. I think I was feeling the collective grief and the general disrespect and lack of honor and appreciation the world has toward women. And guess what – I am powerless to change it.

I can, however, increase my feelings of worth. I can enrich my daughter’s experience of worth. I can assist my clients in identifying their worth, and trust that the ripples can expand from there. Sort of, ‘think globally, act locally’.

Because to demand worth and respect from the outside in just doesn’t work. And if we keep waiting to get it from others, we will be waiting a very long time. Some of those others simply don’t have it to give. We must give this worth, this value to ourselves. We must create our own businesses, staff them with our own choice people, pay them what we believe their contribution is worth. We must choose to spend our money in women owned businesses or other mixed-gender businesses that share our values. We must move out of us vs. them – them being the oppressive, unfair corporations that don’t offer equal pay, the perpetrators. Because if they are the perpetrators, we are the victims, and victims have no power for change.

We must take back our power. We must be accountable to what energy, what dynamics we support. Money is energy. If we pull our money from ‘unfair’ businesses and put it into businesses that support our principles things will change. This is our job, our responsibility, and we have the power to do it. But we have to make conscious choices –

Buy books with a female protagonist.

Go to movies either written, produced, or directed by women with female leads.

Eat in female owned restaurants.

Buy female designers.

Or at least patronize the businesses that offer equal opportunity and pay.

Society has taught women for generations that we are somehow less-than. These ‘lessons’ came overtly at first. And the experiences imprinted on our subconscious mind, creating a split, an aspect of our mind that believed the ‘less- than’ as truth.

Then as the years went on and as society became more politically correct, the ‘lessons’ came covertly, constantly reinforcing the original belief that we are worth-less. So even though consciously we know ourselves to be valuable and equal, it’s as if some part of us still feels unworthy. That’s why we have to do the work. We have to change our beliefs in order to affect change.

Mostly, we have to shift our perspectives of ourselves. We have to truly know our worth. We have to value ourselves and know that we are deserving – simply because we are.

Each and every being is worthy.

And when we believe we are truly deserving of equality, then that equality will come to us. And the more of us that feel worthy, the more the conditions will improve.

“There is a power inside every human against which no earthly force is the slightest consequence.” –Neville Goddard