Holidays are a time for families to connect. That can be both wonderful and challenging. I love my family dearly, but concentrated holiday time with them can find me emotionally time-traveling.

What is that you ask?

It’s when suddenly I am not the 44 year-old wife, mother, business-owner, rockin’ autonomous woman I have grown into. Sometimes I shift quickly and unknowingly into little Becky, the youngest of four trying to get noticed, be appreciated, feel accepted.

When I slip into little Becky, I ...

Focus on my needs? But, isn’t that selfish?
No, it’s detaching.

Detachment isn’t abandoning, it is a form of letting go. It can be letting go of the old roles or expectations; it can be letting go of outcomes -both desired or feared.

It can be scary sometimes to let go of a loved one, especially if we fear for their safety or consequences.

Social consciousness tells us that to love someone is to help them, to do things for them, and by ...